Dear Pastor,
I have a problem and I need to talk to somebody about it, so I have decided to write to you. I am 35 years old and I was taking care of a man. His daughter and son pay me to take care of him, but the relationship with this man and I was more than just being a caregiver to him.
We had an intimate relationship and I knew all his business. I did all the transactions for him. His two children live in the United States of America, but they spoke to me every week. They were very kind to me and they paid me well.
This man made a will and he included me in it, but he told me that his children have never seen it. I have a son, and people don’t know that this man is his father. He has left $5 million for me to take care of his son. I asked him if he does not feel that it is time for him to tell his other children that the child I have is his. He said that is not their business.
I told him that if he does not tell them and something should happen to him, then my son would be left in the cold. However, he insists that this will not be the case. This man is now 75 years old, and he is not doing well, healthwise.
The problem is that the will that I saw has disappeared. I know where he kept the will, but his children were in Jamaica for a week and they were looking all over the place to find it, because he told them he has one.
He owns the house in which he lives, and he has an apartment that is rented. He uses a portion of that rental income to support me. He is not a mean man, but I am concerned now about my son.
My son is five years old. Don’t you think I should let his children know that he is the father of my son? His children are grown. They don’t need anything from him. I know the executor of his will and I asked him if I could get a copy of the will to protect myself. He said he will give me a copy, but he has not done so. The executor and himself are very close friends. The executor has even tried to get very close to me in a sexual way, but I don’t believe that I should give him my body.
I want to know what I should do, because this man is now suffering from cancer. Sometimes I say to myself, maybe I should give the executor a chance so I can find out where the will is.
I am not a bad woman, but I feel that his children have tampered with this will. I will be looking in THE STAR for your advice. Please tell me what to do.
F.W.
Dear F.W.,
If this man is reluctant in informing his children that he fathered a child with you, you probably should tell him that you believe that the time has come for you to let them know the truth. Perhaps this man believes that his children will not respect him as much as they did. However, you have to be concerned about your little son.
As I see it, you need legal advice. This man is not poor. The house in which you live and take care of him does not carry a mortgage. He has another house which he owns and uses part of the rental proceeds to help you.
I can see your concerns. He has made a will because he doesn’t want anything to happen to him and to leave you in the cold, so to speak.
You should tell this man that you are prepared to tell his two adult children the truth.
Where is the will? I am sure the executor of the will has a copy, and you don’t have to go to bed with him to find out the truth. Don’t stoop that low. Tell the gentleman that you are prepared to take the matter further.
Remember also that a will can be changed any time, and what counts is the last one. So, an individual can make a will today and change it tomorrow. I hope the man will cooperate. You will receive justice if you handle the matter right. I wish you well.
Pastor